TRIGGER WARNINGS: mentions of sh, mentions of noncon, mentions of gender dysphoria, cheating, mentions of Epstein and ICE. Nothing will be graphic or go into detail
Exposition pt. 1: First of all, I want to start from the beginning. When me and #him first met, our relationship was a fairly normal friendship. We flirted a bit, but I interpreted everything as joking. As we got closer, he started getting more sexual with me and asking for more things, namely a “voice reveal”. I always complied because, at the time, I trusted him and believed that the hate he was receiving was unjustified and just jealous assholes. I also assumed that the sexual and romantic attention he was giving me was special to just me, which now I know was most likely not the case.
Exposition pt. 2: He asked me out a few weeks into knowing him if I remember correctly, and I agreed. He then asked me to make an announcement bot bc at the time I was still a creator, and once again I agreed and posted the bot (he asked me at the time to leave him anonymous, which I did find strange). A little while later he finally agreed to let me include his name, and he made his own announcement bot. However, he took his down very soon after posting and rarely mentioned me in anything else.
Cheating: I have very reasonable suspicion to believe that Rim either was cheating on me or wanted to cheat on me during our relationship. As I previously mentioned, he frequently avoided mentioning me or even the fact that he had a boyfriend unless it was beneficial for him. He also publicly flirted with other men on revo and janitor. At one point in our relationship he told me that a man had tried flirting with him in his dms, and he then proceeded to create a gc with me, him, and that man and kind of made me watch him flirt with a stranger. The entire experience made me very uncomfortable, but I didn’t mention anything at the time because I was scared of him getting mad at me.
Conservative: Rim is much more conservative than he appears to be. We had many arguments throughout our relationship about matters relating to lgbtqia+ people and identities. The main reasons we argued were because he believed that being queer or lgbtq was a “choice”, and that he doesn’t think that children should be educated about queer identities and families. I disagreed and tried to explain that views like these often lead to discrimination and oppression towards already marginalized groups, but he would often refuse to hear me out or even acknowledge any opinions other than his own.
Bad Bunny: After the Bad Bunny Super Bowl halftime show, Rim asked me for my opinion on it. I said that I loved it and that I was very happy about the message behind it and how hopeful it was. Rim said that he did not like it. I asked him why, and he said that he wished it would’ve been in English because he did not understand. I tried to explain the importance of the halftime show being in Spanish and catering to an audience other than just English speaking white people (especially considering everything going on in the world and the United States currently), and he said it was unreasonable because “the main audience of the Super Bowl is English speakers” and because he and his family “did not understand”. He refused to understand my perspective once again, and I ended up having to apologize to him.
Insensitive/inconsiderate: Throughout our entire relationship, Rim was very selfish and insensitive towards others. He would frequently talk to me about sh/wanting to sh, however he talked about it in a way that seemed to almost romanticize it. He knew how badly I struggled with sh and wanted to quit, but he continued to talk about it with me and force me to think about it frequently. He would also use talking about sh as a way of getting attention or sympathy. He also often discussed things such as noncon (I’m sorry I hate that term, I’m just trying to not be too graphic) in a way that heavily romanticized and nearly idolized it. Whenever I would try to talk to him about current political issues such as ICE, he would say that he “didn’t have the energy to care”. He also had similar views on Epstein victims, and he once stated that he believed the victims were choosing to stay/go with him as if the majority of his victims were not literal children.
Voting: Rim told me that he never votes because he views it as pointless. According to him, it would take too much time for too little impact and that protests are a more important form of activism. When I asked if he was organizing/attending protests, he said no. I tried explaining the importance of voting to him, and he got upset with me and once again made me apologize.
Manipulative: When me and Rim were still together, I met a few of my friends. They made jokes at the time about me being a cuck to other people in the group, not mentioning Rim or our relationship once, and I thought it was funny and was not offended in the slightest. However, Rim got incredibly upset and ended up blocking one of my friends because of it. When I asked Rim why he blocked my friend, he lied to me about the whole situation and said he hadn’t. He also would always frame himself as the victim during arguments with others, despite him usually being the antagonist.
Post-Breakup: Rim broke up with me out of the blue one day but said we could stay friends, I agreed because I did not want to upset anyone. However, just days after he was asking in both revo and dms if he could suck my dick in rp. I kept trying to avoid the situation but he kept pressuring until eventually I just said no and he finally gave up. He continued to act like we were still dating for weeks after our breakup, before eventually getting with his current partner. He also continued relying on me for emotional support despite me being uncomfortable with it, and frequently asked me to rp.
Blocking: Out of the blue one day, he blocked nearly everyone he spoke to, including some of my close friends. Many people were obviously incredibly hurt and upset, and when asked about it he did not have a good reason and did not seem apologetic either.
Crimson: For those who do not already know, Crimson is Rim’s current partner (as far as I am aware). At one point in time, I considered myself very close friends with Crimson. However, they began dating Rim, my ex boyfriend, less than two weeks after we broke up. I would not have been upset about this, but they decided to not tell me at all, lie to me about planning on breaking up with Rim, and pretend to be apologetic. I had to find out about their relationship through a mutual friend, and when I confronted Crimson they said they were sorry and planned on breaking up with Rim soon. This was weeks ago. They tried to hide their relationship from me because they knew I would be hurt, then proceeded to lie to my face and act like I would never find out the truth while still pretending to be my friend. They also appear to be defending Rim in this situation, however I’m not sure how much they actually know.
EDIT: I have now been informed that Crimson and Rim have broken up, although I do not know any of the details. I would also like to clarify a bit more on the timeline- I made my decision to delete my previous account (TheSecond) AFTER I was told by a mutual friend about Rim and Crimson's relationship, not before like some have implied.