Akan

Disclaimer: There is not too much information on this page as I wish to uphold my anonymity as much as possible.

Why do you sometimes talk weird?

Switching up the way that I talk helps obscure my identity, as I want to keep this side of my internet seperate. I do not wish to be recognized by way of speech. Sometimes I might talk an archaic manner or with intentional minor grammar mistakes.

Do you have a DNI?

I am not fond of people who readily adapt foreign terms without properly researching the history and implication. Like "fujoshi", which refers not to people who happen to enjoy gay content, but to a subculture centered around projecting heteronormative roles onto gay male relationships that I am personally not comfortable with. For more information on this one, scroll lower on the page. Similarly, "jiraikei" is a Japanese equivalent to saying "bpdcore" and I generally do not get along with people that aestheticize a real life problem, especially when that "aesthetic" is based on the Japanese "landmine" problem with its roots in underage work, homelessness, and self harm. It is not empowering.

People who re-package patriarchy, bioessentialism, and related roles in a pink bow and claim it's feminism. Reversal of role does not address the underlying flaw of those trains of thought.

Fag hags, fruitflies, trans chasers. I don't feel comfortable and objectification is cringe.

Thoughts on the "fujoshi", "yaoi" craze

Simply put, "Place, Japan" is a huge no.
I knew these terms before their recent re-boom, and I feel I have the right to speak about it as a gay man who also speaks Japanese. Fujoshi is not a cool, woke word - fujoshi is a self-referral term that frames BL as an object of desire (not necessarily as of, the person is attracted to it). In fact, Japanese sources tend to remark how the term has been re-interpreted in a much more progressive way than it actually is for a reason. In Japan, the debate is not whether or not Fujoshi is fetishizing; the debate is whether or not fetishization is "really that bad". The "gay men vs. fu- culture" debate goes back to 90's internet if not earlier in Japanese.
Fujoshi are essentially taking out their sexual frustrations or social problems with a patriarchal society by projecting gender roles and restrictions onto a gay relationship. This is not empowering; instead, the idea here is that you are no longer supporting a problematic idea if you enjoy this content - because they are both men, they are "equal", and therefore it is a fantasy that you don't have to feel guilty for enjoying sexism in. Not all fujoshi are straight women; this is a misconception that fetishism is restricted to an "other"... but the fetishism of fu- lies not in sexual pleasure but in treating gay relationships as a distanced, unreal, element of fantasy. However in Japan, most fu- are predominantly straight women that seek more "conventional" relationships but don't want the guilt of supporting gender restrictions, followed by lesbian seperationists that find it easier to distance themselves from these male characters (according to countless survey and study of the phenomenon!). There are also few, and I mean few, straight men (fudanshi) who participate in fujoshi culture but they are often perceived as tourists. They mainly take interest in the "feminine" aspects of the stories, be it sexually or otherwise.

"YAOI" is an acronym standing, roughly translated, something akin to "no meaning, no purpose, no plot, no point". Yes, that's right - compared to the more broad BL, "yaoi" refers more to the works specifically catered to fujoshi made by fujoshi; where the gayness of the relationship is seen more of a gimmick. If you've been on Japanese internet, you will also know that an overwhelming amount of these "yaoi artists and lovers" are violently queerphobic outside of fiction; they will group gay content with dead dove do not eat (eroguro nonse). Seriously, some of the worst transphobia (especially towards transfemmes) I've seen have been from accounts that primarily produce "YAOI" artworks. They also make it clear that their love of BL is only when it is entertaintment, as established prior, fujoshi circles heavily engage in gender role and patriarchy so they have a tendency of seeing men as "inherently violent and undeserving"; but a lot of them who are straight are also disapproving of lesbians. Safe to say, it's a foreign internet thing to paint YAOI and fu- culture as something progressive.
Yuri doesn't carry this connotation as it is the "flower word" for GL. It's simply a symbol. The "flower word" for BL (bara) however is generally meant to appeal to gay men and features more muscular, masculine depictions, so there's no true BL equivalent to Yuri.

Similarly, yumejoshi is not quite what it means now - in its original use, it is less shipping your persona/OC with a character, and more... unhealthy attachments to a character. Yumejoshi are generally defensive of their perceived relationship, and some have mental issues that can lead to their situation, it is a sophisticated topic that should be adopted carefully. Please just say OC x canon. I find it strange how we found the concept itself less acceptable until the Japanese term for it imploded... I don't see anything wrong with shipping and having fun, but I am critical of encouraging delusional attachments or saying terms for toxic behavior is cooler.