... DISCLAIMERS ... i use the term IRL solely for convenience, and because it fits my experience best. while they are are often worsened by delusion and mental illness, they are still incredibly important to me and impact my identity massively separate to the influence of psychosis, and unwarranted separation can be incredibly harmful for me. they are literally just me pls respect this 👍 if you are a double (unless stated i'm okay with them) please just don't bring it up around me! ^-^ mediamates are always welcome! people i'm not looking for are still free to int (unless stated otherwise) but keep in mind i already know mine! this list is in no particular order :)
i also recognize that some of my irls/kins aren't the best people or have done bad things. i am aware of this despite canon divergence (particularly with harper & alex. please god i am not canon my mems are SO different) and understand discomfort or criticism! you're always free to ask for further elaboration on any of my mems, but please recognize that i am a different person now too and do not endorse every single action taken in my sources:)
i separate my IRLs into categories -- primary, secondary, tertiary -- that allow me to more easily explain their impact on my identity, and to help me process && make detachment/recovery easier in the future. still important to me regardless and may shift up and down the list at any given point. i've provided little explanations beneath each category to make it more digestible, but you're absolutely free to ask if you need further clarification ^o^
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primary irls impact my identity the most, and are entirely inseperable from myself -- they are me in the most genuine way. i am incredibly attached to them && feel the strongest connection to them. i would prefer not to be separated from them at all. primary irls rarely fluctuate in intensity and are constant in nature. NO DOUBLES PLEASE
ꕀ :: harley quinn (T)SS, birds of prey, DC
ꕀ :: robin buckley stranger things
ꕀ :: amy santiago brooklyn 99
ꕀ :: janae matthews one of us is lying
ꕀ :: maxine minx X (2022), maxxxine
ꕀ :: veronica sawyer heathers musical, movie
ꕀ :: harper mclean heartbreak high
ꕀ :: natalie scatorccio yellowjackets
mediamates i'm not looking for :: jake peralta , shauna shipman , quinni gallagher-jones , jackie taylor
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secondary irls still impact my identity, and i still feel attachment && connection, but less so than primary IRLs. i can handle some degree of separation if necessary. secondary IRLs may fluctuate in intensity but are still constant in nature. NO DOUBLES PLEASE
ꕀ :: syd novak i am not okay with this (high)
ꕀ :: maeve wiley sex education (high)
ꕀ :: gigi rock sex&drugs&rock&roll
ꕀ :: jillian holtzmann ghostbusters: atc
ꕀ :: rio vidal agatha all along
ꕀ :: alex standall 13 reasons why (i know.)
mediamates i'm not looking for :: N/A
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tertiary irls impact my identity the least and, comparatively, i feel the least attachment && connection - but still more than with kins. i can handle separation if necessary, and may be actively trying to separate myself in some cases (crossed out). tertiary IRLs fluctuate in intensity and are episodic in nature. EXTREMELY IFFY (ASK)
ꕀ :: wednesday addams wednesday, afv
ꕀ :: iris companion
ꕀ :: virgil sanders sanders sides
ꕀ :: clay jensen 13 reasons why (i know.)
ꕀ :: will graham hannibal nbc
mediamates i'm not looking for :: n/a
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IDs are kins that are particularly important to me. they have a significantly stronger connection and impact on my identity in comparison to my other kins, and i'd prefer not to be separated from them. EXTREMELY IFFY (ASK)
ꕀ :: twilight sparkle MLP:FIM
ꕀ :: luz noceda the owl house
ꕀ :: catra she-ra reboot
ꕀ :: beverly marsh IT chpt1+2
mediamates i'm not looking for :: rarity
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KINs are characters that i identify with and feel connected to. i see them as smaller fragments of my identity, but recognize and am indifferent towards separation in most cases. each kin varies in intensity (and is impacted by kinshifts), so stances on doubles may fluctuate from kin to kin. DOUBLES OKAY
ꕀ :: pearl steven universe
ꕀ :: mae borowski night in the woods
ꕀ :: alphys undertale
ꕀ :: ringmaster scarr fortnite
ꕀ :: the silent slay the spire
ꕀ :: rayman the rayman games
ꕀ :: gracie gorbo smosh vs zombies
ꕀ :: yuri doki doki literature club
ꕀ :: barbie handler barbie (2023)
ꕀ :: tater tatum the spud hut sitcom
ꕀ :: jade west victorious
ꕀ :: n/a
mediamates i'm not looking for :: angus , rust , the ironclad , globox , patton sanders
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some are unlisted for comfort or categorized weird because it helps me process , so i'm sorry if it doesn't make much sense :( i made this list as coherent as possible , though!