boundaries!
- Do not touch me suddenly/without me knowing, it will most likely freak me out. (irl)
- Do not purposely do something after I've told you to stop multiple times.
- Do not comment on my looks. Specifically hair, facial expressions and my teeth. I am highly self conscious about those things, and I am highly aware my dental hygiene isn't the greatest. Commenting on it doesn't fix or help it.
- Do not drag me into your problems or arguments if I don't want them. I don't need your drama.
- Do not vent to me randomly. Ask first. I could misinterpret a vent and joke about it or say the wrong thing if it's randomly thrown at me without me knowing.
- Do not tell me someone else is a bigger fan or whatever similar to something that I am highly fixated on. it can highly upset me. (crenny, craig tucker, hammerhead sharks, ect.)
- Try not to yell at me. Higher tones that are unexpected can scare me easily. (irl)
- I have problems that make me seem weaker and or specialized. Do not treat me like a child because of them, and do not use them to back me up in arguments. (Autism, Hypersensitivity, Generalized Anxiety.)
awareness!
- I am a very touchy person and will grab your hand/arm/shoulder or even hug you randomly if we're close. If that isn't liked and you are on my close friend list, please state that to me. (irl)
- I get offended and frustrated easily. please excuse my attitude if I am rude to you or i assume things, because it is most likely not your fault.
- I am bad at starting conversations due to heavy overthinking. I mainly like for other people to start them first.
- I may switch conversation topics a lot if a different interest pops up in my head or if I don't know how to reply.
- I read messages fast and sometimes interpret certain words differently or in the wrong way.
- I am bad at spelling even the most simplest words. If I spell something wrong, please do not fix it. That can frustrate me sometimes. Ask for me to restate what I have said if you cant understand.
- I rant about things a lot when I feel like I can. If I say something you do not like, please state that before I continue.
- I am awful at telling tones if I don't know you well. Tone tags are needed sometimes, mainly for serious things or to address that you aren't mad at me.
- I overthink a lot of things and will mainly say "are you sure", "I'm sorry", "If that's okay", or something similar if I seem like a bother. The closer we are and the more I know who you are as a person, the less I will state those things.
- adding to the one above, i can also be very paranoid if im in a not so good mood or mindset. and i will also constantly apologize and make sure of things when im in that state.
- The more you know me, the more of an asshole I can be. But that's just how I am when I'm comfortable, I don't purposefully try to hurt anyone.
"do these boundaries apply to everyone?"
Yes. They apply to everyone. Kraig is one person that most of these don't apply to considering he is the closest and most trustworthy person I know. And also Kelly, since she is my girlfriend and I trust and find her close just as much.
"who do you consider close?"
Kelly, Kraig, Roman, Carrot, Jears, Jay, Mika, Mike.