hellooo! hi this is soap, ive decided to write a bit better on my boundaries, why i use the term proshipper and my reasoning!!
TW: this rentry has uncensored mentions of harsh topics, if you are uncomfortable at any time while reading i highly suggest to click off and take a break
my take on pros and antis
i went through a very negative and mentally manipulative friend group, for so long i stood by them and went out of my way to harass proshippers, i dedicated HOURS to hating on pros thinking i was some type of savior and to what? fictional characters??(which was even more hypocritical knowing damn well i was a recovered darkshipper) i felt disgusted by some of the things i saw, and that doesnt mean i dont find it disgusting now, alot of things like incest, zoophilia, adult x minor and other types of ships made me uncomfterable and still do. I went on a large break after i was HARASSED out of my friend group, i went to therapy and grew as a person, i realized like "shit you know this is like, life its really not that deep, i cant keep wasting my life harassing someone elses because theyre different from me" and it clicked, i talked to some pros and asked for advice and slowly but surely they took me in and ever since ive seen a side that i wouldve never dreamed of seeing as an anti. antis portray proshippers and just horrible people and some have some reasons why they might think that but some do not, genuienly more than half the pros/darks ive met are good people, good people who have gotten death threats, rape threats, dox threats, and millions of other vile malice filled insults just because they cope from trauma diffrently, you are not some hero or "good" person by harassing these people for that. you preach kindness, preach that mental health matters, preach to protect kids but half the people at the tree are kids and no proshippers do not equal pedophiles and i wont lie that ive seen nasty people who've claimed to be pros, darks and what not but are litt just pedophiles and creeps and guess what? as soon as anyone senses these types of people in our safe commutnity we deal with it. You dont actually care about their mental health because you dont acknowledge that these people are real behind the screens and pixel ponys, you say you want nothing but the best for others, you hide behind your own emotions and mental illnesses as an excuse to harass others with mental illnesses and its fucking crazy. Ive seen so many antis try to be the "kind guy" but in reality if you are harassing us, watching or actually engaging in harassment you are not.
id also like to add that alot of antis tell pros and darks to "dni" but will turn around with pitchforks ready to hurt, and tbh i truly dont think you wish the best for pros if you havent tried to see anything from our eyes, and before people come at me with "you dont ever listen!!" or stuff about you being "normal" compared to pros is just silly, me and whoever you are reading this at this very moment are both human, and i never wish harm on you no matter who you are, i dont care if you hate my guts i would never wish harm upon anyone not even some of the worst people in my life, theyre still human, they have emotions you dont see, feelings you cant tell from looking at them over a game, a life behind all of this, empathy is important, and as someone who struggles with that i can confirm its not that hard to just respect everyone, sure you dont have to like them, you can hate and dislike as many people as you please but going out of your way to form a hatred for someone you dont even know and dedicating time that could be used for so much more to harass people is just not worth it.
"why did YOU become a pro" and "what does this mean to you"
1.) i decided to use the term proshipper simply because ive seen both sides of wars and honeslty like i mentioned above, life is too short and not deep enough to devote hatred towards someone you have no control over. ive decided to take the role because i once more just do not care for harassment, i think its useless and id much rather spend my time trying to help people get better and spread their sides of things than harass them with little to no clue of what they are going through behind the screen.
2.) Being a pro to me is being anti-harassment, i do NOT ship anything taboo. being anti-harassment means i wont harass you for what you ship but that does not always mean i will stand for your ships or support them, it also doesnt mean you can openly like kids around me. yes this is targetted, i dont care how you cope, what you ship, if its helping you get better do it, but for the love of whatevers above do NOT think that means you can be 18+ talking to me weirdly, sending me adult content, talking to other REAL CHILDREN, exposing kids to adult content in general and like being so fr this is what gets pros the bad reputation is when some fucking weirdo gets into a safe place and thinks they can be a straight up pedophile, and preach that they arent.
My boundaries as a pro
as ive stated before i do NOT support pedophiles, pedophilic ships, loli, and whatever other terms you weirdos use, do not interact i just genuienly am tired of defending pros and then someone turns around and openly is talking sexually to a minor. Fictional ships like that and loli is also a really thin line for me, no i will not harass you for that but please stay away from me, you guys make me heavily uncomfy and i dont appreciate how some people who ship these things take this as a joke.
zoophiles, dont interact, i have no respect for you and most likely will say something if you bring up how attracted you are to your pets.
bigots, homophobes, transphobes, racists, thats pretty straightforward.
yeah um, just keep in mind i also do not support darks or coms who try to pull "oh yeah no i dont have any trauma source" DNI. Once more i wont harass you but in my eyes turning a coping mechanisim into something just anyone can run into is really disturbing.
anyways, that is all i have for now and i most likely will return to speak more on this but yeah, words do more damage then people coping with a uncomfterable mechanisim
my discord is down so i reccomend reaching out to me on tiktok or pintrest. i will delete any hate on my ata or straw but im always willing to answer questions and stuff :)