BOUNDARIES
- If we're trying to sleep try not to get us to do things that would require us getting up and/or looking at phone
if we're already using phone it's okay
Your main tells for when to really, really not do this is when we're actually in process of falling asleep so. you might hear intermittent snoring, we will be overall very quiet otherwise, we will be extremely slow to respond, our responses will be flat and a lot of "mhm" and "yeah..." type stuff and when we do speak it will be similar to how we speak with littles in front because we can't think/process enough to use bigger words.
(This includes please do not call people to front when we're in this state. Things like asking if someone can come say something themselves counts. Having people called to front when this tired is very, very upsetting.)
The reasoning for this boundary is that it feels a lot like sleep denial and we will cry about it. - Please do not make jokes/comments/etc. that imply we were ""raised wrong"" or not raised well. It's very upsetting for us to hear because for a lot of our early life we were raised by a single father trying his best.
Also don't imply our dad is a bad parent/anything similar. He is doing his best, he has only ever done his best. We love him more than anything and we will never see him negatively. - Please do NOT engage in discussions of shipcourse or things like the situation with israel and palestine with us.
These subjects are not safe for us, we will not entertain it. - Don't ask us to VC with you.
If we want to, we will ask, or we will join you whilst you're already in VC.
Current partners are excluded from this boundary. - You can call people to front, but
If you're constantly asking for the same one or two people we're gonna be upset about it because it starts to feel like you don't want the rest of us around.
BYI/DNI
We have no real stance on israel/palestine stuff. Our view is, and will remain, that nobody deserves to suffer or die, and that it is complete bullshit that almost every country nowadays is built on a history of occupation and genocide. The latter part is not about ANY specific country, it's about EVERY country that applies to. Be that Israel, Canada, USA, UK- any of them.
We are not involved in shipcourse. We do not have a shipcourse stance.
If ur ""RAMCOA Critical"" or a RAMCOA denier you can get the fuck away from us thanks
We have no time for people that use Twitter/X enough that it influences them as a person. That place is a cesspool.
If you believe in narc abuse, you can kindly remove yourself from our life.
Same goes for if you think AFAB Transfems and AMAB Transmascs aren't real/valid
Same goes for if you're aganst MOGAI terms && Mspec Monos
Same goes for if you're pro-c(as in you think it is okay for adults to have relationships with kids and humans to have relationships with animals. We will have space in our life for you if you previously believed this and are recovering, but if you aren't recovering / aren't interested in recovering you can fuck off)
We are firm believers of "If you put it on the internet, it's free for anyone to use" so don't come at us with any 'ur copying us!!!' bs we dgaf. If we like the layout of something we will use the layout. If you don't want us to, don't share it where we can see it. Simple as that.
We have severe BPD obviously but we also have the super bad RSD so that in combination with our history of not being the best people often causes us to break down into spirals of thinking we are the problem, always, and that everyone is better off without us. During this we are extremely likely to lash out on purpose for one of two reasons. The first reason is that we are convinced everyone secretly hates us and have the attitude of "well I'll give them reason to!", the second reason is we think you should hate us and are trying to make you hate us.
At the moment, we're recovering from a very rough relationship that had a very, very upsetting breakup. They promised they would never leave us, and then after leaving call with us, up and blocked us on everything out of nowhere. Because of this, we have a hard time believing that any of our friends actually want to be around us and that they're not just waiting for the "right time" to leave. We are constantly bracing ourselves to lose everyone around us. Please be gentle with us.