Move around, bitches, a new paraphile term that's in town!
Sunset Paraphiles
Wait, Back the Fuck Up, What?!
Yup! You heard me right, bitch (/play), a new paraphile group term is in town!
A sunset paraphile is, as a short hand explanation, a person who is or believes in the following;
- They're a paraphile of any attraction, and pro para! Of every paraphilia!
- They're pro recovery - which can be supporting another paraphile going to therapy for any reason, or going themselves if they wished!
- Theyre anti contact with harmful paraphilias, although understanding that there may be safe ways for certain paraphiles to engage in their attraction, and feel it is okay to do so if that's the case
- They're vehemently anti-radqueer, and disagree with the pro-contact stances shared in those groups (We notice the pro contact all paraphilias radqueers quite frequently... Coughs in the midnight/dusk paraphiles)
- They wish to keep the lines between a paraphilia, paraphilic disorder (PaD), and different types of OCD presentations such as P-OCD or Z-OCD separate and unblurred
- They want people to know what having a paraphilia may be like for them! What a paraphilia even is, and that not all, or even many paraphilias are harmful!
- They understand that melting the guilt and shame away can be harmful if it's not done right - or done too quickly, and that there may be a reason that said guilt or shame exists.
They are not or do not believe in the following;
- Forced recovery (That's stupid and can be unproductive, even. Forced recovery can be more harmful than not.)
- "Another group to pretend they support paraphiles" (Thanks, nonnie! You're gonna be the clown and one example! 💙💛)
- That no paraphile should contact their attraction (that's also foolish, if thats the case then kinksters should not be touching ropes or floggers/paddles /lh)
- That you should hold on to all of the shame or guilt that lies there (Same nonnie as above! Clowning two, electric boogaloo. Theres a healthier way to deal with the shame, ya moron.)
- That the paraphilia should not exist after going to therapy; it is there, regardless of if there's a reason or not.
- That all paraphilias come from trauma! No - some can easily come from delusions, others just simply exist! And that's fine! It doesn't take away from those who do have paraphilias from trauma, however. (Times three-)
Who can be a sunset paraphile?
- Anyone who's a paraphile or has a PaD! No, seriously! There's no requirement besides being anti-radqueer and being anti-contact with harmful paraphilias, while understanding that "the big three" are not the only harmful ones! (Note that, yet again, there can be dangerous paras that still have a healthier or less harmless way to contact, like somnophila or biastophilia, but there should be a lengthy discussion and consent prior.)
- Those who want to learn more can be a supporter if they wished, or ID as one if they're curious! Might make a "Sunset Para curious" flag, though! And feel free to ask me about anything! I have my informational blog linked on the aunset para masterlist!