" what is avpd?" ────── avpd stands of avoidant personality disorder & it makes us just that , avoidant. this manifests in us as ( 01 ) not talking in large servers / groups. ( 02 ) not answering vcs or dms w/ those we do not have in our dni excemptions. ( 03 ) going completely ai for indeterminate periods of time. ( 04 ) extreme anxiety & even agoraphobia at times ( both caused by the avpd & our anxiety disorders ).

" what should i try to understand from this?" ────── we do not intend to be rude or come off in that way when we either don't reply right away , at all , say no to vcs / dms , etc. it is caused by the disorder & we promise we arent just being an asshole to you.

" how should i interact?" ────── here are some suggestions ! ( 01 ) ask before dming or calling us , some don't have to always ask ; i we have stated to you that you are personally welcome to dm us randomly than go ahead ( that doesnt always apply to vcs , please always ask before calling us ). ( 02 ) instead of just dming us " hi " & nothing else , try saying why you dmed us , example ; " hi , i just wanted to say i liked that one graphic you made c: " or something of that nature , it greatly helps to sooth our anxiety around interaction. ( 03 ) dont be vauge about important things , stuff like " hey i have something important to ask you but youll have to wait until later " can send us into a state of paranoia. instead , please wait until you have the time to actually sit down & talk about it with us. ( 04 ) please do not pressure us into answering dms , calls , questions. if we are uncomforable answering please leave it at that , not doing so with strain your chance of interacting with us again. ( 05 ) just be kind & use tone tags :3

reminder ! these are just our personal experience & preferences so these tips will not work on everyone with avpd , everyone is different. if you are not sure how to interact with someone who has avpd you could always try asking them or someone close to them.

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Pub: 17 Jun 2023 23:02 UTC
Edit: 02 Dec 2023 12:10 UTC
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