disclaimer: this does not count for the lovelies on ao3 that write fucked up stories WITHOUT making them seem cute and healthy. youre okay, and i dont have anything to say about you because writing non romanticized abuse and such ISNT a problematic thing!! it literally happens in your average movie!! anyways

hi! ex proshipper here. please dont scroll or click away, listen to me as i have listened to you. i was in the proship community for a pretty long time, and although i wasn't the most active person, i was very passionate about the whole debate. i made this rentry when i was VERY new to the community, and i was simply devastated that all the hateful people on tiktok did not know the 'true' definition of proshipping.
i will tell you the things i've learnt in these 2 years about the proship/comship/darkship community.

  1. there are 2 types of people in the proshipping community: the kids, which are either young, traumatized and mentally ill kids who are simply trying ways to cope and got roped in unwillingly, or edgy (still probably mentally unstable) kids who do it for fun and to be edgy and cool etc. i was the second type lmfao. and then theres the adults, which are usually also mentally ill, or just creepy and want their fetishes in public, and should probably not be in spaces with literal kids in general either way. and im not talking about the adults on tumblr who make it clear that they will block any and all minors (while this is still unsafe as any and every kid will lie about thier age), im talking about the ones who make the most diabolical vents in proship discord servers and talk about fictional abuse and rape with literal 12 year olds.
  2. BOTH of these types of people do not have a properly developed brain, which in turn cannot separate fiction from reality as it should. the kids can't because their brain is literally still developing, and just like victims of csa/incest/grooming/things like that, who in their childhood or teens get their morals blurred and usually (until they get the correct info they need) don't know whether what happened was right or wrong. and the adults, and some other kids, can't separate fiction from reality either, as most claim they use proshipping as a coping mechanism, which literally HAS to affect reality for the coping mechanism to work. you will say "there's different ways things affect reality!!" but for someone that traumatized, the lines are BLURRY, yknow??
  3. proship USED to mean anti-harassment. it USED to mean ship-and-let-ship, don't-like-don't-read. now? it's just a safespace for people who want to display their fetishes for everyone to see (what i want to say to these people is please stick to porn sites, that's where everyone's a com/dark/proshipper cause they actually don't give a fuck). and this community occasionally ropes traumatized kids in, messing up their moral system and stuff, which is just another part of the internet that's messed up and kids get exposed to, like those elsagate videos or the mlp gore that lots of young gen z people saw at one point of their childhoods.

no socials or discord or whatever, i dont wanna argue with mentally ill people, fuck morally wrong things, should never be romanticized esp not on a kawaii style tiktok account. thank you if you read everything (if you didnt please try again) and bye.

and p.s.: to whichever antis that tell proshitters to kill themselves, just try to educate them instead as most on tiktok are just kids

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Pub: 27 Jun 2022 17:18 UTC
Edit: 18 Apr 2025 10:40 UTC
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