zomb discusses paraphilia contact stances… or whatever

This is an updated version of an old, now deleted tumblr post by skydoesablog on tumblr (me).

IN THE BEGINNING…

(…sorry just being silly TwT…)

ever since i discovered para stuff, i’ve been strictly “anti-contact,” but i wanted to explain what this means to me, and how some may align me as more “complex contact” or even “pro-contact” in some of my stances. and while previously, i would deny being either of these, fearing people may get the idea that i condone abuse or what have you, i want to explain what exactly i mean when i say im anti/complex contact.

first of all, i am very much against child abuse, including romantic/sexual advances towards children. i am very much against the exploitation and abuse of children in videos, online, etc. including materials commonly referred to as “CP.”

the same goes for animals (non-humans). i don’t believe children and animals can consent to romantic or sexual interactions with adult humans.

bestiality and animal sexual abuse materials (videos, pictures, etc.) is wrong and abusive.

my thoughts regarding consent and abusive/exploitative contact:

to clarify, not all “contact” with children/animals is wrong when you have attraction towards them. you can be around them. you can touch them (appropriately), even hug and kiss them (depending on your relationship and given you have their/their parents consent).

it’s important to know your limits and if you have intrusive thoughts or urges, that you feel you can control yourself. it’s important to talk about your feelings, but with attractions like this you may not always feel you have someone to talk to. if you have a therapist or close friend who knows about your attraction, try discussing your feelings with them, and discuss ways to cope when around your object of attraction.

not all people attracted to animals/children deal with intense internal conflict. sometimes, you have an attraction, but don’t really feel any urge or desire to act on it. maybe you love children and find them attractive. maybe you love to spend time with them and would never ever hurt them.

anti-contact is simply against abusive contact (sexual, romantic or otherwise).

oftentimes, we know ourselves best. if you feel you can control yourself, being “in contact” with your object of attraction is perfectly okay, as long as the contact is appropriate.

P.S. i don’t believe there’s some magical age where teenagers become adults and suddenly understand consent. i think that kids will have sex, teen will have sex, and adults will have sex. sex is not dirty or wrong or inherently abusive. neither is love. but taking advantage of the power you hold over kids/teens as an adult is not okay. i believe kids/teens deserve to have more rights to choose for themselves. we tend to underestimate youths and their ability to understand certain concepts (such as consent).

i dont think a teen/adult relationship is inherently predatory or abusive. but there is a power imbalance there created by the laws and rights that are currently in place where minors cannot do the same things adults can… such as access certain information or resources if they’re… say, being restricted by their parents/guardians and/or teachers. this both protects them and traps them in a bubble. some teens have access to proper sex education and some don’t. some have supportive parents and some don’t. as it stands right now, the way society is and yknow… i just wouldn’t suggest or necessarily support a teenager/adult relationship, unless the age gap was very minimal.

meanwhile, i would never support an adult/child relationship. this, to me would be like anyone 13 and under with someone 18+. it seems predatory to me, and i can’t really see a way it could work even if it was in good faith on both ends. that’s just my opinion though. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

moving on…

you may have noticed i am discussing quite a bit about animals and children, 2 of the big 3, but not so much dead people/corpses.

this is because, while i acknowledge that in most(?) cases, necrophilia is illegal, i don’t believe it is immoral IF the person gave consent prior to death. i understand that many people have different beliefs regarding bodies and their connection to the soul or other spiritual/religious beliefs, but as an agnostic, i don’t believe we should be pushing these beliefs onto others …people who may want to get freaky with a corpse OR have someone get freaky with their corpse… if the people involved have agreed to it, who am i to judge?

speaking of getting freaky, i am (if it wasn’t obvious) of the opinion that consenting adults can do whatever weird kinky stuff and be freaks all they want, even when it comes to paraphilias. ageplay as an outlet for attraction to minors? sure! petplay, a/b/o, feral play, etc. as an outlet for zoophilia? right on! consensual non-consensual for biastophilia, consensual somnophilia, hitting, cutting, tying up, choking, etc etc. (with consent!)? it’s all good in my books.

acting out certain scenarios with someone (or multiple people) you trust IS okay.

ANYWAYY… TL;DR:

• children and animals cannot consent to sex/romance
• child ≠ minor, child = 0-13
• teenagers can consent to sex/romance with other teenagers and people close in age
• teen and adult relationships should be examined on a case by case basis
• even small or no age gap relationships can have abuse, it's important to consider multiple factors in a relationship before coming to the conclusion that there is abuse happening
• i personally don't recommend teen/adult relationships unless very close in age (17 & 18/19)
• that's just my opinion due to society at this time being super judgy & the risks associated with those relationships
• i generally say im anti/complex contact in regards to minor/adult relationships

• animals cannot understand informed consent, therefore cannot be in a sexual/romantic relationship
• i am anti-contact for zoophilia

• it is up to the individual about what happens to their corpse. if they agree to having it used sexually/romantically, that's up to them
• i am pro-consentual contact for necrophilia

Thank you for reading! ^w^

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Pub: 25 Feb 2024 00:35 UTC
Edit: 25 Feb 2024 00:39 UTC
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