Aggroamoric Attraction
(this is a WIP!)
Index
- What is aggroamoric?
- Extended definition
- Aggroamoric spectrum
- Aggroamoric usage
- Similar/useful terminology
- Flags
- General flags
- Specific orientations
What is aggroamoric?
Aggroamoric is derived from the Latin aggredi: "to attack" and the Latin amor: "love". It is a fragarian (synonymous with tertiary and nonrose) attraction term defined by aggression.
The original coining is phrased as follows:
A tertiary attraction label for low or no empathy individuals, characterised by acting spiteful, mean, rude and bickering/fighting with the object of one’s affection, and overall having socially atypical methods of displaying attraction that may be subject to disapproval and judgement due to their aggressive nature. This label is intended for completely healthy (although taboo) dynamics and not abusive or nonconsenting relationships.
As it states, the term was originally coined to be exclusive to no/low empathy individuals, but this criteria was retracted in this post on 17/5/25 by rabidbatboy.
The equivalent for having an aggroamoric crush is called a rival, and the equivalent for a partner is called a fiend, either used on its own or as a suffix for a preferred gender quality (e.g boyfriend, enbyfiend)
Extended definition
Aggroamoric spectrum
Aggroamoric usage
What does an aggroamoric relationship look like?
As established by the aggroamoric spectrum, aggroamoric attraction can be presented in a variety of ways, from physical, verbal, or a mix of both. Aggroamoric attraction does not always involve literally expressing or following through with the desire for these qualities, in the same way that romantic attraction does not necessitate handholding, kissing etc.
The following are some examples of possible qualities in an aggroamoric relationship and/or experiencing aggroamoric feelings for someone. This will not encapsulate every single aggroamoric experience.
- both fiends regularly use a sport such as wrestling or boxing to express aggroamoric affection for one another
- a fiend may have one fiend with whom they physically tussle and another with whom they are verbally spiteful to
- fiends may have a BDSM dynamic in which they express their aggroamoric attraction
- someone developing a rival might begin to engage that person in good natured debate frequently, or fantasise about doing so
- both fiends may regularly engage in a sport or activity which is not inherently considered aggressive but are mean and spiteful to each other in a competitive manner
- alters in a system who are fiends may take out violence on each other within headspace where it is a controlled environment
- fiends might say 'i hate you' rather than phrases such as 'i love you'
Who might experience aggroamoric attraction?
The following is a list of examples of what could be percieved as aggroamoric attraction. You do not have to fit into any of these examples, this merely serves to give a framework if you are interested in recognising if you experience this kind of attraction.
- an NPD/BPD (etc) individual may experience aggroamoric attraction to their supply person as they antagonise them for supply
- alters who reenact abuse insys may describe their attraction to one another as aggroamoric
- BPD individuals who are frequently or constantly black split may experience aggroamoric attraction
- individuals who do not feel connected with typical ways of expressing care such as touch or quality time may find they experience aggroamoric attraction through a desire to consensually fight/bully
- individuals who have a large element of kink and BDSM dynamic involved in their life may find they experience aggroamoric attraction alongside sexual attraction
- conversely, asexual people may be interested in nonsexual kink/BDSM due to aggroamoric attraction
- ASPD, low empathy (etc) individuals may experience aggroamoric attraction as they find that they can only connect through hostile and aggressive forms of interaction