why "proship recovery" is stupid and not real
first off, what is proshipping? : proship is the belief that no one should be harassed over fictional content even if said content is "problematic", or in other words anti harassment (more detail here). It is often mistaken for comshipping. which is the actual term for problematic or complicated shipping.
you cannot recover from being proship. proship is believing you shouldn't harass anyone for fictional ships no matter what, because at the end of the day it's fictional content and as long as it's properly tagged it's not hurting anyone and anyone who chooses to read or look at it is the one subjecting themselves to such content. to say you are "recovering" from being proship is saying you're recovering from being anti harassment, which is stupid.
what about recovery from being comship? if comshipping is genuinely effecting how you view relationships in real life or you start genuinely normalizing problematic irl things because of problematic fictional ships you should not be online at all, you shouldn't be on the internet. you are allowed to have squicks and triggers when it comes to problematic tropes cause some people just don't like certain things and thats okay, however there is a problem when you start being unable to seperate fiction from reality to the point you see it as normal irl. because not only is that dangerous it's a sign you need to take a step back.
I think it's also important to mention not all proshippers are comshippers, some proshippers genuinely despise problematic ships. they just think no one should be harassed regardless if it's problematic and shouldn't be called a pedo over it. so you indeed can still be proship without being comship. problematic shipping isn't for everyone.
some proshippers said that they used comshipping as a coping mechanism and it hurt them. while it is true some comshippers use it as a coping mechanism, if it's genuinely making your view on the real world unhealthy or you recognize its not for you, you shouldn't be online or you should stop subjecting yourself to it when you recognize its making you uncomfortable. Like stated problematic shipping isn't for everyone. If it's making you uncomfortable you should stop doing it but that doesn't mean you're recovering from it, it just means it isn't meant for you. also antis like to harrass and gaslight proshippers into believing their comships are unhealthy and making them normalize it irl. this group of people are known as the "nice antis", most proshippers who say they 'recovered' were probably bullied or gaslighted into it. in other cases, it's just antis baiting as proshippers and just say they are recovering when they get bored.